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BballNut
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 Posted - 07/05/2012 : 22:28:34
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Read this on a baseball team's website. It is worth sharing as the recent posts inquire as to who would you play for if given a choice and many are trying to figure out where to venture next.
Just like with anything travel baseball has an under belly. An ugly side, a side that can be described in two words Change and Drama. Those two adjectives are constant with any team in any age division anywhere. And once you get that, it’s easier to digest and it no longer becomes a source of stress but rather a source of strength and understanding. You see no matter what team your son plays for, that team will eventually have it’s fair share of change and drama. Some teams hide it better than others but trust us it’s there. What is important to understand is that almost all drama and change is caused by the parents & coaches. The kids just want to play for the most part.
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Face it, some people are just drama. There is nothing you or I can do about it. Don’t you find it odd that the people who constantly say they hate drama are the ones that have the most of it in their lives. That is not a coincidence. The “Drama Parents” will not be happy anywhere they go and they will sink your teams ship if they are allowed to stay. The best thing to do when confronted with “Drama Parent” is to not allow yourself to be dragged into their drama. Misery and Drama love company. Don’t feed the trolls and hopefully they will get the picture. If they don’t get the picture remind them that there are no contracts in travel baseball. If they are truly unhappy where they are they should consider packing up and and moving on.
Understand this though, there will be times you hate your son’s coach and that’s OK. There will be times every parent on your team annoys the hell out of you and guess what THATS OK. You need to view your travel team as one big family. Just like with any family, things won’t always be rainbows and cotton candy. Unlike your family though you can pick your travel ball team. The point is this…..Don’t Be Drama. No one wants to hear or deal with your constant negativity. What you feel or think should always be secondary to what your player feels and thinks. Do not brain wash them with your BS. If they are happy playing where they are playing then shut up and just be a source of encouragement not a source of drama.
Change:
We encourage and embrace change. Without change things become mundane and stagnant. Growth will potentially be stifled and players will become comfortable and content with their rank and file on a team. None of those things are good. So as long as it is done for the right reasons we think change in travel ball is a great thing. If your son is having a good time, learning and getting better as a player and as a person I say stay where you are. If he is not then it’s probably time to move on. If a change of atmosphere is what is needed by all means do it just remember the old adage “The grass is greenest where you water it.” That holds true in life and in travel baseball. If possible wait until the end of the season. However there are circumstances where you need to move on mid season. If you need to move on don’t worry about what other parents will say because at the end of the day you need to make the best choices for your player. Others will disagree but no one can blame you for doing what you think is best for your player.
If you change environments and are still experiencing the same problems or issues as before it is possible and likely that either A.) You are not very good at picking teams or B.) Share in the blame as to why things are not working. This is a good time to do a personal inventory check. It’s never to late to change your attitude. Remember your player needs a great parent not an agent.
COACH DISCLAIMER
If you are able to recruit a player mid season from another team there is a strong likelihood there will be another team down the road that can recruit that player from you. Keep that in mind.
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DIFLJ
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Posted - 07/06/2012 : 11:57:47
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| Very spot on post. I'm betting that just about everyone on this website had specific families/parents come to mind as soon as they read this. I think the most important sentence in the entire post is "don't feed the trolls and hopefully they will get the picture." Unfortunately, as long as there are coaches willing to win at any cost, most anybody can find a home in the travel ball community. In our area, there are very recent examples of "Drama" returning to the same team for the 2nd and 3rd times. Some folks never learn. Great post! |
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gatorboy1
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Posted - 07/06/2012 : 12:30:10
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without a dobut DIFLJ, some parents think they control teams and have the right to dictact playing time and that its all about their boy. history has a tendancy to repeast itself, once a bad fit always a bad fit
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Originally posted by DIFLJ
Very spot on post. I'm betting that just about everyone on this website had specific families/parents come to mind as soon as they read this. I think the most important sentence in the entire post is "don't feed the trolls and hopefully they will get the picture." Unfortunately, as long as there are coaches willing to win at any cost, most anybody can find a home in the travel ball community. In our area, there are very recent examples of "Drama" returning to the same team for the 2nd and 3rd times. Some folks never learn. Great post!
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TPXGREY12U
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Posted - 07/06/2012 : 17:15:58
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Change can be good. We are waiting for our final tourney and then going to seek other playing opportunities. That is the way to do it. The lessons learned by my boy this season were more about finishing what we started. Sometimes a good decision can turn sour in mid stream so you make the best of it.
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rippit
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Posted - 07/06/2012 : 22:00:20
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Amen brother!! Somebody should copy and paste this to general discussion.  |
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baseballnut33
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Posted - 07/07/2012 : 00:54:02
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sometimes it is the coaches that are causing the drama by letting parents control things or not nipping poor behavior in the bud or just plain old letting things run amuck. Problems are usually minimal if everyone is growing and having equal opportunity to win a spot. if what is going on on the team makes sense then there is usually support. Sometimes a parent just speaks up. Doesn't mean they are a bad apple, after all they are paying. and if one parent says it chances are others are thinking it.
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TPXGREY12U
139 Posts |
Posted - 07/07/2012 : 11:25:37
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Amen. In some local programs is how dare you complain!
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Originally posted by baseballnut33
sometimes it is the coaches that are causing the drama by letting parents control things or not nipping poor behavior in the bud or just plain old letting things run amuck. Problems are usually minimal if everyone is growing and having equal opportunity to win a spot. if what is going on on the team makes sense then there is usually support. Sometimes a parent just speaks up. Doesn't mean they are a bad apple, after all they are paying. and if one parent says it chances are others are thinking it.
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Wake Up
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Posted - 07/08/2012 : 17:24:55
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Originally posted by TPXGREY12U
Change can be good. We are waiting for our final tourney and then going to seek other playing opportunities. That is the way to do it. The lessons learned by my boy this season were more about finishing what we started. Sometimes a good decision can turn sour in mid stream so you make the best of it.
Agreed 110% with you on this. We are in the same boat (and on the same team). It is also about looking out for your kid. It is not always abut winning but about being a parent. |
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TPXGREY12U
139 Posts |
Posted - 07/12/2012 : 09:37:09
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| Our team cut the arrogance cord and let our coach go. The power of many can be strong. We urge the flipside team to do the same as I know I woke up feeling a bit better and the look in the mirror and into my childs eyes when I told him the truth was one of CATHARSIS!. |
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BangTheBox
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Posted - 07/12/2012 : 16:36:48
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That was just a matter of time and the other team is just a matter of time. The blog is never wrong!
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Originally posted by TPXGREY12U
Our team cut the arrogance cord and let our coach go. The power of many can be strong. We urge the flipside team to do the same as I know I woke up feeling a bit better and the look in the mirror and into my childs eyes when I told him the truth was one of CATHARSIS!.
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